One important question you have to ask yourself is: are you confident enough in yourself that any let down or rejection during dating will not damage your emotional state. You may be tempted to find someone who is the complete opposite of your ex-spouse.
Whilst some I coach find dating has boosted their self-confidence, this is not true for everyone. While this may sound good, if you think about it it's probably not a good idea.
He shared that he still had a lot of regret and anger towards his past and ex, and that it occupied his mind a lot (especially at night).
I believe that if you cannot accept someone for who they truly are, it is best to let them go.Rather than dragging out the inevitable or both being unfulfilled.Believe it or not, it is much easier to find someone new in line with what you want, than trying to change someone else. Sorry I don’t mean to be negative but I want to protect you.People only change if they want to and not because someone wants them too. For a majority (not all) dating can bring a few let downs.If it is too avoid being alone and "alone time" my heart goes out to you.
I speak more about this issue and dealing with loneliness in my podcast that will be launched on itunes by 3rd April.
Whilst I get to hear wonderful stories of those that find the love easily after divorce.
In all honesty there are some people who struggle with dating and the feelings that come with it. This is where you have to take stock of your own emotions and what it is you are looking for after getting divorced. Only you can really answer this question but what I ask my clients to think about is why do they want to start dating again?
It is hard for them to overcome the demons of your past relationship if you do not give them that chance. Similarly if the person you meet annoys or upsets you but you are hoping to change them, consider that they may not be right for you.
You may be reading this thinking of course, I would end it straight away, but not everyone does.
Equally important is knowing what you do and do not want.