so a girl could like you for years without you ever knowing and asking her out. I’m speaking from personal experience as well as YEARS of interacting with shy guys who can’t seem to attract a girlfriend even though they are intelligent, not ugly, and good people.So that’s one of the four things I talk about in the video: 1.
You might avoid all social contact because things that other people consider “normal” -- like making small talk and eye contact -- make you so uncomfortable.
All aspects of your life, not just the social, could start to fall apart.
Social anxiety disorder (also known as social phobia) is one of the most common mental disorders, so if you have it, there’s hope. Here’s how to know if your social silence has gone beyond shyness to a point where you need to see a doctor.
Some of these situations might not cause a problem for you.
Your friends without anxiety don't get it and think you're being ridiculous. " Yes, thank you for clearing that up, it IS a stupid thing to have anxiety about, because I do have an anxiety disorder. You indulge in magical thinking, often consumer-based, before the date. Buying and wearing this overpriced Gwynethy cardigan. If you go on a dinner date too early for your comfort level, you can hardly eat and the guy assumes you have an eating disorder. But for now, you scare the shit out of me, so I'm slowly nibbling on a lettuce leaf with fear in my eyes. You drink to calm your nerves, and since you can't really eat (see above), you get really shitfaced really fast. Even if you have pre-planned (#3), these things do slip your mind occasionally.
You'd be amazed at the amount of food I can consume once I'm comfortable around you! Oh, and if you forgot you took a Xanax earlier, you're on the floor.When you avoid all or most social situations, it affects your personal relationships. Crying and hyperventilating on a park bench for no reason apparent to anyone but you realllllly gets those dicks up! Social anxiety disorder usually comes on at around 13 years of age.It can be linked to a history of abuse, bullying, or teasing.Genetics likely has something to do with it: If you have a family member with social phobia, you’re more at risk of having it, too.