Almost all men get somewhat nervous when they have to ask a woman out, or kiss her, or even talk to her for the first time.
He sees this, gets nervous, and never conjures up the guts to speak to her. He can't work up the nerve to talk to her another time.
Another variation is when a guy runs into a girl, say because he sits beside her in a lecture, chats to her for a bit, and comes off well. A third scenario might be something more drawn-out, like a guy has a few conversations with a girl he never really thought of as more than someone friendly to talk to.
I'll list some quick suggestions at the end, but for the most part I'll describe the issues shy guys deal with and let you draw your own conclusions about how to act.
As with all the other writing on this site, the points here are from a mix of my own experience and accounts I've come across of how shy guys say they think.
They'll come away from the interaction feeling excited and optimistic about where things may lead.
However now they have a reason to feel pressured and jittery around her, and that's exactly what happens.Sometimes a guy will be able to talk to someone he's interested in, often because the circumstances put them together, so the onus wasn't on him to approach anyone.If they like someone they'll often feel too nervous to ask them out and face the awkwardness and risk of rejection that entails.Dating advice is outside the scope of this site, with this article being a semi-exception.Over the years several women have written me to tell me reading this site has helped them understand the actions of a shy guy they were pursuing.The first is when a guy simply sees a girl around a few times and makes confident eye contact with her.