OCC has received from an Orthodox Christian young man from the USA the article that we present to you in this page.
She felt herself drifting away from him, even as she was drawn closer. You are past thirteen, single, and have a body that is ready for sex. You are probably dating, find yourself in situations where either your partner, yourself, both of you, or just your body is saying, Go for it. What will it hurt, you ask yourself, at the same time knowing that something is wrong. Or, if you are in love, are you missing out on a natural expression that would enhance your closeness?
Now she was feeling not at all like her old self, and she wondered what to do from there. Or, the issue takes on meaning in your dating relationship. If you have hung around the church for very long, you have probably heard that Cod wants people to reserve sex for marriage.
So, always before it got too heated, they would back off. Their relationship went along for a while like this, until one night they went too far.
They had been lying on the floor watching videos and feeling very warm and close.
He would tell her no and she would first get coy and flirtatious, and then push harder. In other areas of their relationship she did the same thing.
When he said no to that, she would either get annoyed at him, or hurt, and pout. He talked to her about his spiritual commitment and what he believed about sex, and she said she agreed, but still thought it was okay if you really liked someone. When he would want to do something different than she wanted, she had a difficult time respecting his wishes.Her values about physical limits before marriage were strong, but that night her values seemed to be somewhere far away from her awareness as she got lost in the closeness with Dave.It was a little like a whirlwind inside her head, and she really wondered in a way how it had happened.If it feels so good, and is good for the relationship, and both people are consenting, then what is the problem?For many people sexual abstinence is just a religious rule that makes no sense.And, for that reason, like other things of high value, to spend it casually or unwisely is foolish, and you will be cheated in the end. In short, she had spent it all, and was left with nothing to show for giving herself away. In contrast, I talked to a man recently who had also found the one. But, having had a few experiences like Amanda, he had decided to wait.