Was there anything (aside from faith itself) I wouldn't give up to be with him?
I realize it's different for each situation, but I'm just looking for ballpark figures and general guidelines. My wife and I were long distrance before we got married---and quite a long distance. I presume you recently met someone and are considering getting into a relationship with him/her? My wife and I were long distrance before we got married---and quite a long distance. I am currently in a LDR, talking is a great way to get to know each other better. We are blessed in this day to have the technology bring ourselves closer even though we are far away, use it.
I don't know how we did it--must have been our age and the fact that we were head over heels for one another. I don't know how we did it--must have been our age and the fact that we were head over heels for one another.
And that went really well, and we really liked each other.
After spending 6 months talking as "friends", we went "official" and became a couple. About a year after becoming a couple, he proposed, I accepted, and I just moved to KY last week! But, really, communication was the most important thing.
(Family of origin, faith, how many children we wanted, how we envisioned raising them, etc etc) One thing that's key is to set a timeline for yourselves to figure out when the "long distance" part of the relationship will end and where you see yourselves living.
It helps to be able to tell yourselves "this will be over soon enough" rather than "I have no idea when we'll actually be together, and no idea of what our relationship means" I don't know if this helps, but feel free to ask any questions you may have! After the first few visits, it was about every week. This seems very fast, and I know this seems like a lot considering how far apart we were. His parents are very dependent on him, and mine aren't.
The more visits we had, it just became more difficult to longer without seeing each other. About the same time I did (possibly even a little faster). But, sometimes, when you know what you want, you know what you want. And my job is much easier to relocate than his (I was a home health aide, and he works in television.).
I don't know if there was a specific moment--I'll ask her and let you know tomorrow. One thing that struck me was how quickly I came to a decision if I wanted to date this person or not.
I also had to be sure that he saw me as truly marriage material. I came to a point where I had to ask myself is this person really worth giving up so much for?
Moving 100 miles away would mean leaving a great job, my family, my Church community and ministries, and familiarity.
We talked every day, often for hours on end, if we had time. And we made a point of bringing up difficult or uncomfortable topics, making sure we were able to talk about anything. Talking about what we wanted in a dating relationship, how long each stage should last, when a proposal should take place, who would relocate, etc.