Don’t get carried away with the first surge of sexual interest.
Most of all, it seems that every woman, regardless of age, despises the indoors.
I say this because, according to their profiles, every spare moment is devoted to running, skiing, hiking, climbing, rafting, unicycling, spelunking, parachuting into triathlons, and engaging in a variety of other calorie-burning gerunds.
Call/email or text if you are interested (but don’t be a pest—everyone is busy.) I once sent a man two-dozen daffodils after a satisfying evening and ended up in a very long relationship. He actually bragged about getting the bouquet.) Don’t become a stalker, but if you’ve got something to say, don’t worry about communicating via text, cell or email; those are just modern methods of communication and thank-you’s never go out of fashion.
Careful about sexting: Look at what happened to Anthony Weiner.
By a remarkable coincidence, what people notice first about each and every one is her distinctive smile and eyes.
Accompanying photos occasionally include kids and pets and sometimes are taken in (and of) exotic lands, the point apparently being to make the rest of us depressed about the repetitive, prosaic, embarrassingly local lives we — and apparently only we — are leading.
Here’s what I learned about the new dating etiquette: Take it easy: Dating in our youth sometimes seemed like a race—biological clock ticking, friends getting married, parents asking us when we were going to settle down.
Now, except for the fact that the true finish line is in sight, there’s no rush.
(Personally-speaking, young men require way too much time holding my stomach in, but to each his own.) Keep your heart open: Yes, we have all had some disappointments (and some real heart-crackers), but you are never “too old” to date (no matter what your family or society says.) Finding someone to laugh with and love, at any age, is one of life’s greatest gifts.
Kitt Walsh owns a web content company, Behind Blogs ( is a regular contributor to CNN Money, a public speaker on Social Media, a book editor and ghostwriter, and freelances as a feature writer, editor and marketing consultant for magazines, newspapers and private clients around the world.
I recently went out with a widower who hadn’t been on a date since 1968 and we shared few laughs about how dating has changed.