I think that I have three problems: #1 – I cannot build up enough energy to go out and meet women. I am not shy in normal social situations, but just going up to a woman and talking to her is not a skill of mine. I am much more comfortable not expressing intimacy to anyone. I would consider myself over 10 years “behind the curve” and I really feel like a loser. I tend to be a “glass is half empty” type of person.If I go out with someone my own age, I am going to be light-years behind in experience. When you say that you are a nice guy, I wonder if what you mean is that you are a passive guy. I note that you’ve been on dates but have bailed out of the process after the second date, perhaps because you “fear intimacy” as it were (the second date being the beginning of the period when the formation of a relationship becomes a possibility).
Some women just want to be pursued, and if you won’t do that they won’t like it.
But you don’t have to date those women again, much less sleep with them. There are plenty of women who will seriously dig a more passive guy because they want to take the lead.
You also are saying here that you don’t know how to act around women.
Really – you act around them like you would if you weren’t trying to get them into bed, except that you act just a little nicer, and you take them to a nicer place.
Seeing his success, I have nothing against the online dating culture.
However, let's be real for a second: Tinder is basically a complete joke, at least in terms of finding “true love” or anything close to it.
You can’t assert yourself when you are worried about keeping other people from rejecting you!
Anyway, I think there is a lot of hope for you and I think your difficulty can be overcome if you are willing to become active and face your fears.
I'm sure there are a few good guys floating around on there somewhere, but I think we can agree that the majority of them suck. I'm not sure if there's some widely-held stereotype that girls respond more positively to emojis, but if so, I'll happily discredit it.
From my experience, these are the 10 worst people you’ll encounter on Tinder: This person just can't take the hint. Maybe all the questions I now have are meant to be conversation starters. Yes, I use emojis every now and then, but I don't think an initial message containing nothing more than a creepy pair of emoji eyes is the way to get me to talk to you. When girls actually respond to douchebags like this, it only validates another stereotype: insulting a girl = flirting with her.
The fact that you’re worried about how to act suggest to me that your brain is more focused on what the woman might want from you rather than what you might want from the woman.