Schools need to teach about emotions such as jealousy so that girls when they are dating, instead of being flattered by bringing out jealousy in a boyfriend will recognize the insecurity that this emotion may represent.
Many health education programs today are teaching about feelings and how the feelings can be controlled.
This is part of harm reduction programming that also is a part of drug use (and binge drinking) prevention.
To this end, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) has begun developing a violence prevention campaign to help change social norms that support victimization.
To first learn what the middle school dating norms are, they set up boys’ and girls’ focus groups.
Male participants described situations of retaliation or to assert themselves in front of their peers as reasons guys hit their girlfriends. Before getting romantically involved with someone, consider what it would be like to break up with this person.
The participants strongly disapproved of sexual violence. Have you known him to lose control of his anger for certain periods of time? Would you be able to cool the relationship and still remain friends or end the relationship if you wanted to? It is a lot easier to get out of a potentially dangerous relationship in the early stages than to wait and see how things turn out or to see whether or not you can change a person.
Notice that being hit or physically abused is only one sign of an abusive relationship.
You can be in an abusive relationship without ever being hit.
Abusive partners are self-centred, immature, manipulative, can't appreciate the views or needs of others, shift blame onto others, don't take responsibility for the bad things they do or say, are possessive and treat people like their property, and put others down to feel good about themselves.
They are disrespectful and may have problems keeping their emotions under control.
With endorphins flooding their brains, young people (or middle-aged people in mid-life crisis) are apt to enter into an intimate relationship, with their feet not quite on the ground.