But let’s not pretend that we, as a culture, don’t worship at the altar of youth. Don’t get me wrong, there are advantages in a 45-year-old guy. He’s got the job and the home and the car, and been divorced with a kid already.If you’re over the age of 40 and have ever said, “But I’m told I look five years younger than my age”, then you’re not immune to it yourself. And nobody has more choices than a 28-year-old woman. So if a woman finds it more appealing to just step into that world – to jump from the prolonged adolescence of the late 20’s into full-fledged settled-down womanhood – that could make sense.Then there was Ashton Kutcher who stepped out with a 23-year-old, leading Demi Moore into a whippet-induced 911 scandal. “In the hundreds of cases I've researched, the couples I know and with whom I've worked, there is love and fidelity,” she says.
Insecurity and infidelity are juicier issues, for sure, but the most common reason older women’s relationships with younger men end is more prosaic. “That’s usually what it comes down to.” The most common disagreements arise when the younger man wants a child, and the older woman is done having children, can no longer do so or is simply committed to her child-free lifestyle.
Yet women shouldn’t assume that all younger men will eventually want children. Despite the prevalence of the cougar trend, older women shouldn’t expect society to treat their relationships with younger men as “normal.” They will likely field their share of raised eyebrows from friends and family members.
Mariah Carey, 42, has had twins with Nick Cannon–that’s a 10-year age gap. But top of the tree, as ever, is Madonna, 53, who is at least considering a marriage proposal from her 24-year-old boyfriend, Brahim Zaibat.
But no one raises an eyebrow at a 29-year age gap any more. There’s on television and dating sites like Cougar
At a mere 10 years younger, perhaps Ritchie was just too old for her.
In any relationship it can be a nerve-wracking experience to introduce a partner to your family.An older man’s going to be the strong, nurturing guy who takes care of her, teaches her, and treats her like a princess – the kind of relationship that she probably lacked growing up.Hey, I’m no psychologist – just your friendly, neighborhood dating coach. Whether we like it or not, there is nearly a full generation gap between 28 and 45.And yet, they probably resemble Penelope’s dad more than they resemble her brother….This is the most compelling reason behind why younger women might go for older men: they’re daddy substitutes.If you happen to be dating someone who is not your age, and especially if that age difference is considerable, the situation can become even more complicated.