You’ve winnowed through the pool and chosen your potential catch.Now, it’s time to actually link up with “the one”—or one of the ones—beyond the digital realm and in reality.“By treating her with respect, picking up the check, and in general being cool, you’ll win points.
Sexual predators constantly troll the Internet looking for prey, and ladies who trust too easily can, and do, wind up in compromising or even dangerous situations.Women are told to A) Meet their date in a public, B) Let someone know where they'll be and with whom, C) Bring a cell phone, and D) Have an exit strategy. No matter how hot you are for her, or how hot she seems to be for you online, in person, the first thing she’s going to try to suss out is whether or not you’re to be trusted.Keep your cool and calm his jitters by giving him a warm hi and a quick hello hug.Then make a joke that acknowledges the weirdness ("Full disclosure: I changed three times! (If he honks from your driveway, wave him in for just a minute while you grab your purse and jacket.)Your instinct may be to ask a bunch of questions to get him to open up, but that can feel like a college admissions interview.Instead keep the convo moving by making funny observations.
("Do you ever accidentally make eye contact with the people stopped next to you at a red light? ") Don't worry about silences — you can always default to talking about what's playing on his i Pod."I kept his number, and it was so weird because it was like five months later that I found his number in my bag," Spears confessed. All right, so now you’re all set with a shiny dating profile that’s garnered lots of hits from potential hotties.Men aren’t the only predators hunting for their next mark or broken toys searching for someone who can “fix them.” If your date is too eager too soon, or seems a little too interested in your personal finances, or for some reason just makes the hair on your arms stand up—and not in a good way—it’s best to proceed with caution, if at all.“If someone starts talking about the future at the first meeting, or even if she jumps into bed with [you] the same night (unless it was a sex match-up site), be on the lookout for a clingy, dependent type,” Davidson warns. Some information will be designed to ensure her own safety; other information is just inappropriate—like discussing or asking about intimate details of past relationships early on.It’s no reflection on you, and it doesn't matter if you spend your Sundays helping out at the local orphanage or old folks home.